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Greetings. Eric Bakker, naturopath. Thanks for coming back. We’re going to talk about unsupportive doctors. Many, many people I’ve seen over a prolonged
period of time have told me how unhappy they are with their current doctor. Now whether this is a naturopathic doctor,
or a western medicine doctor, or acupuncture doctor, or whatever kind of doctor, we’re
not discriminating here, whether it’s a male doctor or female doctor, or a gay doctor,
or whatever kind of doctor. So most doctors are really good people. I’ve got lots of doctors as close friends,
western medicine doctors and doctors from you can imagine all kinds of modalities. Doctors don’t set out to be unsupportive people. Doctors are busy, often very busy and often
highly stressed kind of people. If you look at western medicine now, it’s
almost become a bit of a supermarket isn’t it? I mean people queue up at the checkout, in
the waiting room, they go to the front counter, and then they get shuffled into little cubicles,
or into rooms, and they sit down there, and then they get given a prescription, and then
they get pushed out. This is quite common. I’m nearly 60 now, and if I look back at my
childhood, we didn’t have medical clinics as such. We had the family doctor. We had a place where Mom would take me, and
then I’d sit down and I’d talk with the guy or the lady, but usually it was a guy back
in those days, and we knew Dr. Lee. Dr. Eric Lee was our family doctor. We knew this guy for 25, 30 years, a long,
long time. Then when Dr. Lee passed, his son took over. That’s how it used to be. Dr. Lee knew my family. He knew that Dad was a womanizer. He knew that my stepfather was a drinker. He knew different things about the family. He was privy to this confidential information
which he held close to his chest. He knew all this kind of stuff. He knew that Mom would like to come in and
have a bit of a talk about that Dad was playing up again and she wasn’t happy. So he was a counselor, a confidant. He was a friend to the family. I remember when Mom was really sick once,
he’d come to the house. He’d do house calls quite regularly to see
the kids. I can remember Dr. Lee quite well. He was a caring doctor, a nice man. Those doctor days have gone, people. You may find them in remote out blocks in
villages in Saskatchewan or places like that, wherever that is, out in the sticks, but in
the bigger cities, you don’t find that, but you can still find lots of caring doctors. Don’t let your current doctor pull the wool
over your eyes or bully you, or make you feel bad in any way, shape or form. That’s not the doctor’s role. That’s not the doctor’s position to do so. I don’t like it when doctors disempower people,
take the power away from you, making you feel like a silly fool, incapable of making your
own decisions, but as I said, most doctors are caring and supportive people, but you
do get rude doctors, you do get uncaring doctors, unsupportive doctors, just like you get that
in any other kind of profession. Like I’ve met quite a lot of rude Uber drivers
for example. So you can’t tar all people with the same
brush, all right? But if you have got an unsupportive doctor
who doesn’t seem to care, you need to find somebody else. You need to get onto an association and try
and find someone who’s quite nice and there are plenty of nice doctors out there, okay? You need to be heard. Your voice needs to be heard. If you’ve got problems, you’re not getting
any satisfaction with your case, you’ve got issues or symptoms, if you feel like you’re
being treated like a fool, you need to go somewhere else. You wouldn’t put up with that with an electrician
or plumber, okay? You need to find somebody else and there are
other people. Sometimes you have to pay more to get a different
type of person, but I’m sure you understand what I mean. Your health is well worth this. So you need to be listened to. This is a very important aspect, and this
is why many people come to naturopaths like me, is because we take the time to listen
to people. We listen to things and take things seriously
that often the medical profession don’t take seriously or disregard, okay? I don’t disregard anything a patient tells
me. Some people put a spin on things or they may
blow a symptom up, make a symptom far worse than it is, or they may downplay a symptom,
so a good practitioner needs really to be a kind of a psychologist to understand human
nature, to work these kinds of things out, but if you want a caring and supportive person,
they are out there. You just have to find them, okay? Sometimes you may need to work with two people. So how much time does your doctor spend with
you? Five minutes? 10 minutes? That’s not good enough. That’s only enough time to say hello and goodbye. I mean you need more time than that, and in
western medicine, unfortunately these days you only get like a 10 minute time slot which
is not good. It’s not uncommon for a doctor to see 40 or
50 patients in a day. I’ve never seen any more than seven in day,
or eight in a day all my career. I could not work any more than that. It’s just too intense, so I prefer not to
take any more than two or max three new cases per day, and generally the rest of the day,
see followup patients, but my clinic’s coming to a close now. 31st of November this year, 2019, I stop seeing
patients because I’m going to spend more time doing this kind of work, educational stuff
on YouTube and hopefully go live on YouTube or Facebook to spend more time answering people’s
questions. That’s something I’d like to give back and
to keep on educating people. I think it’s very important to do that. So when you leave your practitioner’s office,
you should feel inspired. You should feel confident. You should feel happy and have some type of
a plan in mind on which direction you’re going, all right? I’m going to read something out to you which
was written for me by one of my mentors a long time ago. Remember that the talk you had with your patient
can go such a long way towards helping him or her there and then. It will also create a foundation of confidence
in you as a practitioner and in the remedies as medicine that you prescribe. Let every patient who leaves your office feel
better than when they first stepped in. Let this be a cardinal rule of your practice
and your success will be assured. My success has been assured. I’ve had a very successful clinic now for
over 30 years. I’ve always tried to make people feel good
about themselves. It’s difficult sometimes when you work with
mental health patients, but that’s the thing. When you leave your doctor’s office, you should
feel good. If you don’t feel good, then you feel bad. Particularly if something bad’s been said
to you, you need to think about seeing somebody else because that’s only going to undermine
your health more and cause more stress for you and your family. I think you know what I’m saying. You need to have a relationship with that
person that’s going to help you through your health challenges. It’s getting harder and harder to find good
people now, but they’re still out there. Don’t give up. There are plenty of excellent doctors out
there. I’ve met some fantastic western medical doctors
that are in it for the right reasons. They didn’t get into medicine to make money. They got into medicine to help people, but
you’ll also have to respect your doctor and understand that he or she has a family life,
and be careful with calling or emailing their office because, like me, they’ll have thousands
of cases they’re working with and they often get snowed under with work. So be sure that you’ve got all your questions
there and then when you go to the clinic. You’ve got all the pertinent information,
the questions you want to ask, and then … you know what I mean? It’s a proper meeting, so try and understand
that, that you need to get things achieved both from your side and the doctor’s side,
and when you understand that, it’ll be a lot smoother for both of you, all right? So I hope this has been a worthwhile video. Don’t necessarily feel bad about your doctor. He or she may be having a hard day and if
you’re not happy, communicate those feelings, but in a positive way, and ask for somebody
else, or find another doctor that you can have a relationship with because it’s critical
if you want to get better is to form that relationship with a person who’s there, supposed
to be there, to help you overcome your health challenges. Thanks for tuning in.

5 thoughts on “Do You Have An Unsupportive Doctor?

  1. doc, i could write a book here…about the american ones :))))) i m not joking 😂🤭 and yes, you are right with the "supermarket" comparation 🙂

  2. Hi Eric, I really want to do the comprehensive stool analysis from Doctor's Data but neither my functional medicine doctor nor my conventional doctor want to order it for me. Any suggestions how I can get to the test? Do you perhaps know anyone in the Netherlands who can help me with this?

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