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Taking Charge of Your Health


– Hi there, and welcome back
to the Lisa Nichols show where we spend time coming together to inspire, educate,
transform ourselves together. This is the place that we come so that we can believe, and we can get the tools to actually achieve
what we want, the life. Look, I got a guest with me. A special guest. My boy, Matt Gil. Your boy, Matt Gil. So so often, Matt and I are
on live stations together. We travel the world together. And Matt’s always like in the background when I’m recording the shows for you. Matt’s a major, major part of the team to make sure that I hear your voice, to make sure that you hear my voice, and that we do it. So, we’re doing a special show today. You know, we’re real big
on asking you to comment. – Right. – And so, I’m super excited
about what’s happening today. – And then, on today’s episode, we’re actually taking some of
the comments and the questions you guys have been asking. What I’d love, with
just spending some time and reading through all of the different action steps that people have been taking as a result of the show. The new awareness that has come as a result of the show. The, just the new oxygen that has been created and life that people are breathing, that you are breathing, as a result of the show. – Oxygen. And you know, you say that word because you’ve read it so much. – Right. – Like, it’s beautiful to read the words, “this was oxygen for me”. The number one comment
that we hear people say is. – “I needed this right now, today.” – So if you wrote that, we read it. And people all around the world wrote the exact same thing on many, many different episodes. So I’m excited about today because today, the lesson
really isn’t from me. The lesson is going to be born out, organically come out of the question that you ask on behalf of you. – So today, we just want
to do some of the questions and some of the comments. And we want to share some of those. Again, a little bit of insight on some of the questions
that people are asking. – So if you have a question, make sure you send it in. Because we’ll do more episodes like this. If you like it, we’re going
to give you more of it. Where your questions are being
answered live for the world to benefit from the answer from. – So our first question that has come in is from a Style by Mercy. And she says, “My intuition”. This actually comes from the episode “Trust Your Intuition”, which is a really, really juicy one. Like, you look at the comments from that particular show. So many people really
resinated with that message and really just touched their soul. And she wrote in, “My intuition told me to
leave my stressful job “at a law firm where I wasn’t happy “and become a wardrobe stylist. “So I put in my two weeks, “and I took the leap. “I feel so much better mentally, “but my chatter keeps saying, “‘how can you leave a job “when you don’t have
another job lined up?’ “So how do you manage your
self talk in that chatter “when you’re making bold movements “into something unknown?” – So this is for anyone, who you recognize it while
your intuition is speaking, your chatter’s speaking at the same time, and how do you know which
one is going at one time? Any particular time? And how do you turn up your intuition and turn down your chatter? So, Style by Mercy, one of the things that I have always done, ever sine I figured this out, was I recognize what my chatter’s saying, and I actually give my chatter validation. ‘Cause your chatter is
like a warning to us. Your chatter, fear of storms, fear is our friend. Fear isn’t our enemy. Fear is as relevant and as necessary as any other emotion. Compassion, love, all of those emotions that we welcome. Fear is just like any of those. But fear is fueling you
for to go get more answers. Fear is telling you we don’t have enough information. We don’t have a mentor,
we don’t have a coach. We don’t have a, fear is telling you to get something. Because when you go
get the thing you need, when you give yourself what you need, you mitigate the fear. So when the chatter comes up, ask yourself, what is
the chatter telling me I need to go do, and I need to say, and I need to make happen? What’s happening? The chatter is telling me something. So in this particular case, chatter’s telling you financial stability. Chatter’s telling you, I don’t want you to
compromise your lifestyle. I don’t want your car to go away, I don’t want your home to go away, I don’t want your, whatever that thing is
you do for an outlet, to go away. So that chatter is telling you something. So you don’t eliminate the chatter. You listen to the chatter and mitigate the chatter. You don’t let the chatter drive. See, that’s really your question. How do you not let the chatter drive? – That right there is a
just a mind shift change. We run from fear, but yet, when you say
that it’s speaking to us, like that’s key. – Fear is really informing you. It’s not the enemy. I’m afraid I’m not going to move. No, no, no, don’t be afraid and not move. Be afraid and seek what you’re afraid of. So you can go minimize
it into the nothingness that it always was. ‘Cause fear is a created conversation about the future that hasn’t happened yet. I’m going to say that again because I know that’s kind of wild. Fear is a conversation, you’re projecting what
you think might happen. Well, I don’t want to
get a new relationship. I might get hurt. I don’t want to start a business. I might lose my money. Or I don’t want to ’cause I might. You’re just projecting what
you think would happen. Now, how do you take what
you think would happen and put in place a strategy
to make sure it doesn’t? So, Style by Mercy, right? Style by Mercy, if you
were being coached by me, prior to quitting the law firm, you’ve already done it now, great. Let’s make it work. However, if you’re being coached by me prior to quitting your job, I would have coached you the way I coach hundreds of students. To say yeah, if you don’t
want to be where you are, let’s not be there. However, let’s make a strategy so that you can fund your future before you leave. It will require you to be patient. It will require you to
work and do some things you’ve never done before, say some things you’ve never said before so that you can be the man or woman you’ve always known yourself to be. Right? And so I say, how do we buy your freedom? So I’m not sure if you’ve
heard me tell the story about how I wrote myself a check. When I worked at LA
Unified School District, I wrote myself a check every two weeks. My first check was $110 ’cause that’s all I could afford to write myself a check for. And every two weeks for
three and a half years, I wrote myself a check. And in the memo line of every check I said, “Funding my freedom”. Funding my freedom, funding my dream. You know better than me. Buy my freedom, funding my dream. I was funding my dream. And I didn’t even know what the dream was. I just knew I needed
to maintain a lifestyle for my son and I. And so, the way you
mitigate fear and chatter is you put in place a strategy. A solid, doable strategy. And it’s going to require you to do things you’ve never done before. Write things you’ve done before. And the strategy in it of itself is going to make you shake. – Right. – But the strategy gets you excited because the fear begins to
reduce with the strategy. And so, chatter comes up when
you don’t have enough answers. And you’re looking for answers, but you’re not giving them to yourself. You have, you really have
a lot of the answers. You may not have access to them at the top of mind, but you can go get them. I was someone who didn’t have any financial background whatsoever other than, I made money, I spent money, and money burnt my pocket like it burnt my mamma’s pocket. Unhealthy relationship to money. But I wanted to reduce
the fear of stepping out into my future of being a speaker. Okay, how do I do that? I knew that I could live on $31,000 a year and so, I saved until
I got to $31,000 a year for two years. And when I got to $62,000,
I quit my day job. And I knew I had two years
of my stability in tact to make this thing called
a speaking career work. And so, Style by Mercy, we need to get a strategy in place. So your creative side, you’re a stylist, so you’re a creator. You’re going to have to
build the linear structure side of your brain. Which mine wasn’t developed at all when I started speaking. I’m a creator, I’m an artist, I’m a spoken-word artist. And yet, I need to be fiscally responsible for my future. So I had to learn what did that look like. And so, go replace your
fear with information and with a strategy, and it will reduce into the nothingness that it always was. – Love that. Fear for information. – [Lisa] Yes. Replace fear for information. – That is key. Lakiah says, she said, “First off, Lisa, “I love you. “God has literally placed you in my life, “and you are the answer to my prayers. “My life has been transformed. “Absolutely changing and amazing “in the past for months. “But I’m scared. “Can this stay? “How do you overcome the fear “of being able to see success “so when success is new, “there’s greatness in your life, “and it’s something that
you’re unfamiliar with? “Living in the fear of losing it again “or not having it”. – So I always say, are you building your dreams on cement or sinking sand? So, what does building your dream on cement look like? And what does building on
sinking sand look like? So when we have fast success, and it’s that hustle mentality, and you don’t have a clear path on how you got there, and more importantly, a clear path on how you’re
going to get there again, and again, and again, and one more again. When you don’t have that, then all of a sudden, you become worried. So I would say, Lakeifah, I would say Lakeifah, what’s the strategy that got you there? Go back and track how did you get there over the last four months. When you’re successful, you leave clues. Success leaves clues. Find out what are the clues of what you did. What can you rinse and repeat over and over again? And more importantly, what can you up-level to increase your chances of success every time you do it? You’re afraid of if it can last because you haven’t outlined the system that got you there. Now, I got to tell you, sis. If you got there by luck, then I don’t know how it’s going to last. But if you got there by something you did, something you thought, a behavior that you kept reproducing, consistency that you lived inside of, action that you stayed committed to, great. Go document the mindset, the action steps, the consistency, and rinse and repeat. And then, get a tribe around you. I think this a pretty good tribe. Get a tribe around you, but a more intimate tribe as well. This is your online tribe. Get a live tribe. Step onto our campus. Come see me live. Build a community of people to hold you accountable. Not to what you’ve done in the past, not even to the woman you are, but more importantly, to the woman that you’re becoming. ‘Cause when you have people around you pulling you. This is so important. When you’re out in front of everybody, you can even slow down. I remember I went to college. And I ran track in high school. And I was a state champion in high school. I went to college, and I ran, and I won
every event for one year. I was undefeated for a year. But I didn’t improve in my track numbers and my scores at all. I had no improvement. ‘Cause I was out in front. I made no improvement. But man, when I started running against those super crazy fast girls, where I was behind, I, in fourth place, got better than I was when I was in first place. So who’s that tribe that surrounds you, who’s standing two to
10 feet taller than you, that will hold you accountable to the man or the woman
that you’re becoming? Tell them what you want
to create in the world in the next three years, five years in your financial life, in your relationship life, in your family life. Tell them what that looks like. And then keep a track
record on how you got here, and what can you do to get you there? And then stay in action. And don’t be the best
person inside your camp. If so, don’t leave the camp. Just get a second camp. – So you’re talking
strategy and accountability. – [Lisa] And movement. – And movement. – Movement. Strategy, movement, accountability. In that order. Strategy, movement, accountability. – [Matt] I love that, I love that. So Immanuel asks, “Hey Lisa, “I love your show”. And he says, “Can you go more in depth “on what it means to show the world “how it should treat you?” – [Lisa] Oh, of course, Immanuel. I love this topic. And I love you, too. Thank you for your acknowledgement. So, I first said this. I first heard myself say this in 2007 when I was, had the honor of being on the Oprah Winfrey Show. And I remember saying, it just kind of fell out. Right? And then, it was one of the highlights. I kept seeing it replayed everywhere. And it was great that it
was replayed everywhere ’cause I kept seeing it again, and I kept hearing it again for myself. You know you say something, like, oh, that sounds good. Then you hear it back and go, oh, I needed to hear that. It’s one of those things. And it was, “The world
is following your example “of how the world gets to treat you. “And it’s your responsibility
to give the world “the best example possible”. The way you treat yourself is the way I’m going to
follow and treat you as well. So if you don’t give yourself any rest. Now, I want you as you’re
hearing me say this, I want you to just kind of raise your hand or comment, or make a note if you
feel your truth popping up ’cause this is one of those things where the truth just kind
of opens little by little. You go, whoa, I didn’t know
that that was my behavior. Or thank God, I’ve come a long way. So if you don’t give yourself rest, then the world will think
you don’t need rest. The world being your family, your friends. If you say yes to everything, then the world thinks that you should say yes to everything. All of a sudden, your yes actually has less value because you give it away so often. This was a big aha. – That right there is deep. – Man, ’cause I’m a yes girl. I used to be a yes girl ’cause I want to be liked. I want to be liked and loved by everybody so, like, yes, yes, yes. And I’d give it away. And my grandmother taught me. She said, “Baby, if you want
your yes to have any value, “you need to become more
comfortable with your no”. – That right there. That’s a Tweetable moment. – Right, if you want your
yes to become more valuable. If you Tweet it, give
Blanch Houston the credit. I can’t even take the credit. I thought no meant you’re being mean. No, no means I’m being
responsible at times. Because I say yes even when
I don’t want to say yes. So I’m actually being unfair to the people I’m saying yes to. ‘Cause no one wants your resentful yes. No one needs or wants
your overburdened yes. If they love you, they
want your grateful yes. Yeah, I’m excited to do it. And if you’re not excited to do it, or there’s not even
just a neutral feeling, then don’t give the yes ’cause it’s unfair to you and it’s unfair to them. And so, teaching the
world how to treat you has everything to do with how are you holding you in esteem first. How do you love and honor you? You take that extra five
minutes in the shower just because you need that breath? Do you turn the lights out at 10 o’clock ’cause you want to get eight hours sleep? ‘Cause if you’re not willing
to give you eight hours sleep, then I’mma call you at midnight. I’mma call you at five in the morning. ‘Cause I know you up. ‘Cause you gave me that doorway. And so, learning how to teach
people how to treat you, the prerequisite to that is what does falling madly
in love with you look like? And when I discovered
what falling madly in love with Lisa looked like, and it’s not a braggadocios, ego-entered, push the world away. It wasn’t that. It was simply elevating and loving me the way that I want to be loved. Giving me, being the first in line, to treat me well. – And what would be the steps for somebody who says I can’t love myself yet? – Forgiveness. So, cutting the shackles of blame, shame, guilt, regret, and anger. – Say that again. – Cutting the shackles of guilt, blame, shame, and anger. Being willing to forgive yourself. ‘Cause if you can’t love yourself yet, it’s because you’re holding
yourself hostage to something. Something you did or
something you didn’t do. A time where you stood up too fast, did too much, you loved too soon, you let go too soon, you stayed in it too long, you abused yourself, you abused someone else, something. You’re holding yourself
hostage to something. And so I recommend that
you do mirror work. I’m real big on mirror work. Listen, I’m a transformational coach. So I’m going to always
have you do something. So get in the mirror. And this is a longer process, but I’m just going to
have you do this one. Look yourself in your eyes, say your name, and say, “I forgive you for”. And have seven different endings to it. And you might not even be audible. ‘Cause when I first did it, I was like, “Lisa, Lisa,
I forgive you for”. It was one of those, like, ugly cries. – It’s not coming down. – [Lisa] It was one of those cries. And I kept forgiving
myself for the same thing. Seven different things. Every day, I’d say the same seven things I said the day before. Until I feel like healing might come. I did it for six months every day. Every day. I added two other sentences to it, but that was one of the sentences. I did it for every day, Matt, ’cause I had a lot to forgive Lisa for. I had just gotten out of
an abusive relationship, and I felt like I not
only endangered my life, but I endangered my three
year old son’s life. And that felt unforgivable. And I was about to sentence myself to a very dim, dark future. Now I would have been smiling. I would have had some level of success because I can produce in
the midst of my own shame. You know how we’re smart enough, we’re brilliant enough to be able to try to trick everybody else. I knew I can trick everyone else. I had mastered my smile. In front of my tears, I had mastered that. And so, I wanted my smile
to be true and authentic. And so, I just forgave myself. Every day, I forgave myself again for the same thing I forgave myself for the day before until one day I got up, and I said, “Lisa,” looked in the mirror, “I forgive you for”. And I went to say that thing, and it didn’t come out. And I realized that the
forgiveness was already there. So thank you, Immanuel, for the question. – That is juicy. – So I wanted to let you know you have, I know one our favorite, one of your favorite things to do is to go and read all the comments, and you get to hear a lot of the love, and in closing, I just want to acknowledge you. Since I got to spend
some great, quality time reading the comments. The affect that you’ve had on people, the inspiration that you’ve been, the, what I kept hearing
over and over again, was, “This was the perfect message “at the perfect time”. And had you not boldly gone where other people wouldn’t dare go, you said the things that
other people wouldn’t say, you face things that other
people wouldn’t face. – You’re trying to make me cry. – [Matt] Lives wouldn’t be touched. And so, I just want to read to you, just a few things that some people have said because I get the pleasure of working with the Lisa Nichols that everybody gets to see. But I also know the friend and the woman that is Lisa Nichols. – You know sometimes how I have to crawl to the camera? And that’s what you’re not saying. And sometimes I have to
pray myself to a stand. And sometimes, I can’t even pray. You got to pray me to a stand. That’s what he’s not saying. – [Matt] And so as your friend. – My partner in creation. – And the one that’s going to
be standing here by your side, I want to say thank you. I want to say thank you
on behalf of your team, on behalf of the leaders
that stand beside you, on behalf of the people
that watch this episode and catch their breath. One of the most profound statements that somebody had sent in. Frida. I’m going to close with her. Well, Frida says, “This show is my oxygen “to my lungs in a time of
swimming in deep waters “of uncertainty and questions. “This is exactly what
I needed this morning”. And so, on behalf all of us, I say thank you. – It is my honor because I am Matt, I am Frida, I am Immanuel, I am every single person who’s watched, witnessed, didn’t have the energy to type anything or make a comment ’cause they’re still trying
to catch their breath. I am the person who’s soaring and doesn’t want to feel
guilty that they’re soaring while their family might not be soaring. I am you. And I’m grateful that God has chosen to use me in spite of all of my, my ding-dong decisions. I don’t teach from a mountaintop. I teach as I’m walking
up the mountain with you. And I’m grateful. And I’m not going anywhere. And if I am a part of your oxygen, your backpack, your power boost, your get back up, your sit down and breathe for a minute, then I’m honored. I don’t take that, I don’t take that opportunity for granted. So thank you for being thankful because I, too, am grateful. – I love you. – This is why I do this work. This is so rewarding. I don’t if there’s very many things that you can do as a lifestyle where you literally get
back as much as you give. You know what I mean? – Yeah. – This is one of those things. And I’m grateful for it. So remember, this is not a monologue. This is not just about, if nothing else, you can down this episode, just drives home the value of you giving us your comments. – Right. – What was today’s episode for you? What did it make you think about? What was the aha? What was the perfect question? What was that part of the
question that you needed to have asked for you? And more importantly, what part of the answer
are you going to run with? What does it mean to do that? I want you to be willing to share this. Share this with your community, right? You know, I know you share
it with your community all the time. I went over to a friend of mine’s house the other night for a celebration. And about 12 people
there that I didn’t know all said, “Oh, my God. “I love your work. “Such and such shared it with me”. And I went, wow, they got to be inspired because their friend shared it. So share. Comment. – Many of you guys have actually said, “I stumbled across you. “And I found you, and I’m so grateful”. Imagine what it would be like if you were to refer this to your friends who need this message, who need this specific answer to the question that
they’ve been looking for. – Right. What I love about inspiration is that it always fits. It’s never too small. It’s never too big. It’s always just right. So please, subscribe if you
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100 thoughts on “Lisa Nichols – Teach People How To Treat You

  1. This is a comment I have been planning to write for the longest time since I discovered Lisa Nichols. To introduce myself, am jarkie from Kenya, yeah in Africa, the first time I listened to Lisa was when she was be in interviewed and my mind was so blown, my #BOL came out inform of tears and how sobbed, being a person that was emotionally reactive, always playing the victim and playing a back role, a supporting role in my own life film. Since I listened I sort out to not have it that way any more, I was riddled with depression and feeling sorry for myself. Lisa, you got me to believe in myself, accept myself and for once in my 23 years love myself fully inside and most especially outside. Through this journey that happened all through the half part of 2018,i have achieved internal peace I have never experience, I have confidence I have never had, I have wisdom I knew I had but was hidden by all the frustration. Lisa, you helped me recognize all the voices in my head that reduced me, a person meant for so much greatness to a person that thought my life was worthless, a person that thought about taking their life so many times and had even settled for harming themselves. Lisa, now I smile like smiling is how I breath, now I intentionally choose to have a great everyday I wake up, now I take a step back before reacting and believing that I am the author and I choose how my story plays out. I have not had a depressive episode in almost an year, I praise myself and my body every time I look in the mirror. Every Monday before I start a new week, I charge myself with your classes, and from that I get a phrase to work on and live by that week. I have even started working out for myself, to balance waves and channel the negative energy, something I would never have done. Lisa, you took my hand and lifted me out of a pile of nothingness that I had created that I thought was a place I will never get myself out. Lisa, you showed me that that pile was just my creation, and being imprisoned there was my choice and I got break out anytime I wanted, If I choose to. Lisa, you helped me wipe off all the negatively charged labels I had put in myself, and you helped me see that am only as weak as the label I choose to live under. Lisa, you helped me work through all the negative self talk, and now I evict them and I choose to address what fear voices out by the knowledge and skills I have achieved. Lisa, you helped me come to a place of peace in order for me to accept my purpose in this life. Lisa, you helped me allow myself to accept the mission to touching and changing lives through how I live my own. Lisa, you helped me revolutionize my life. Lisa Nichols, thank you so much, so so much for helping me truly see myself. Thank you

  2. I simply some how can't hear you widout tears in my eyes…der are so many things dat u always say has touched me in so many ways…on my to healing wid you Lisa…thx for being there always

  3. Giving Thanks for You! I’m adding Mirror Work to My New Day Ritual. This was just Beautiful!!! Love You All So Much✌🏿❤️✨#cheers #iamyou

  4. This woman is 🔥… She holds the 🔑’s to the Kingdom 4 real ‼️‼️‼️

    Lady Lisa I even see you after your speaking engagement weeping because you carry so much love & burdens for people . But God always replenishes you by giving you what you need. I’m praying for your Charge and Strength in Kingdom Serving WOG because you’re the bomb.com 😊

  5. The fact that you gives practical advices and exercises, not only the theory behind your success helped me to start my new routine. I would love to work with you, too.

  6. Thank you for putting words to my thoughts. I have been divinely summoned for openly inspiring. When you said “Crawl to the camera , pray to a standing position🙌🏾 I can only keep saying THANK YOU. I’m grateful for your calling and DEMONSTRATION of VULNERABILITY!!!

  7. I needed this Lisa. I never knew what it was and why I was acting the way I did. But you basically made it a simple solution. I need to learn How to teach people how to treat me. Being a yes man for everything because I didn't want to let others down. 😔

  8. I don't know if you will ever check this out. But Lisa your such a big part of my life. Because I look up to you. Even while down here in Africa. Thank you for your work. I watch your videos everyday. And I started making some https://youtu.be/qzFptd0T2WQ I hope you could check it out

  9. I was lead to you. I have been battling in my mind what is my purpose. I have listened to so many videos and I promise I have never been so inspired. This isn't the first one that I've listened to but one of the ones I've enjoyed the most. Thank you for your transparency. I have been sharing my story with others in hope to help others like you. You really drove me home. I feel like I can truly do anything. Thank you for giving me that superhero mentality. I hope to just hug you one day just to tell you thank you. You have changed my life. I will be forever grateful! With love and many blessings!!!

  10. The smile behind the tears. I too have mastered my smile and there was a time I didn’t know the person behind the smile. Who I was to other people was not what I was feeling about myself. I found me. I forgive myself for disappearing and am proud of myself for growing from that experience.

  11. Great message, as always! 🤗. I will be sharing this with my older daughter because I know what you’ve shared will resonate with her and bring so much value to her life journey. And, hopefully, she will become all that she can be and bring joy, love and inspiration to the lives of many. 🙏🏾❤️

  12. Dear Lisa, i find tears running down my eyes as you give your final words….It is 1:38 am here in Bamenda, Cameroon and as a result of the ongoing "anglophone crisis" we have been experiencing here since 2016, my house along with over a hundred others were burned down two weeks ago. But i don't feel hurt nor sad because as you rightly put it, "I am more committed to the me i am becoming than every trauma or tragedy i have been through! I am NOT afraid any more. I am developing and evolving…. God bless you. I love you. It is well with my soul. Njikà (thank you)

  13. Thank you for your videos and content. I decided to quit my job bc it’s so toxic environment and start my YouTube channel. Once, I launched my channel, I would love it if you can be on my channel. Love your work. ❤️🙏

  14. UAU! Fantastic! Fantastic moment. I appreciate you so much. Answers! So manny answers! I am pure Bliss right now, THANK YOU

  15. Lady Lisa, I feel I am answering and in the process to the call on my life. It seems too calm and easy. Is this normal? I have been given the vision and belief on the vision without a doubt. I thought I heard you mention before to do it even when it's too easy. Pls. Confirm. In a few months my life will change because I am doing something I never imagined and saying something to the world that I thought I would keep to myself. You are such a blessing to all of us. Thank you for being willing to shed your truth so that we can heal and become extraordinary too.

  16. My best friend told me to watch your videos and I am so glad I did. Thank you and God bless you in all that you do!

  17. We treat people kindly so why not we treat ourselves with love and care. Praise yourself, there's no need to listen others praises for good feeling.

  18. Wow. I never thought to validate my fear and use it to prepare. Listen to the chatter and litigate it. Wow

  19. Hi Lisa,  I would like to thank you and Matt for a great show. My name is Winifred Elam ,  I am a Comedian/Speakerwould love to meet with you. When will you be in LA CA again?  Your videos are so moving, uplifting and touching to my soul. I would love to meet with you. Keep up the Amazing work you do.  WINIFRED

  20. The law of attraction is about landing on a YouTube channel that has a tagline of one thing, but speaks DIRECTLY to the very thing on my mind, a matter dialogued only between God and me (totally unrelated to the tagline).

    Lisa, Thank You for the oxygen that sparked fuels my 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥!

    I rocked with you when rockets were attacking us in Iraq (c. 2009) and I’m rocking with you even now, 10 years later!

  21. I recommend Lisa to people I love. I love Lisa. I find a new strength on her communication. As I am listening to the video I was not planning to comment, my purpose was just to listen, but when I see Lisa putting herself on the line with what it takes for her to continue sometimes, when I see how authentic she is, how vulnerable she could be I am compelled to comment and express my respect my love and appreciation for her work. We love you Lisa. Keep going

  22. I needed to hear how it is okay to forgive yourself over and over again. How when you treat yourself with your needs, that is what you show the world to be an example for. How value comes from yourself and not from others. I am still on the early stages of getting there, but listening to your words make me believe that every step I am getting closer to the person I have always been. Thank you

  23. Thank you, this was very close to home, and wonderful women around me also will beneficiate from this because I'm sharing it. MAY THE DIVINE LIGHT SURROUND YOU!

  24. The words and the vibration is one and the same. Lisa thank you! The best part is seeing your complete transparency! You are my sister. Thank you! I can believe in me again.

  25. Lisa said it perfectly… Give is great… Doing is wonderful. It's the best part of being human but when you get to where you would like to say no because you need to rest or in someway take care of yourself… The "yes" cannot always be… Sometimes you have got to say no… And the way she said it… It's not really being true to not have the "oh yes! I would love to do that" or "I sure can help you" and to think about it: no one wants a tired yes or a worn of begrudging sure. We need to regroup and refresh. These are not her exact words I know yet it's what I understand it to be. When she did that "you know what it's like if feel like your a burden to someone as they help you. I think she said her Grandma said there is no power in your yes if you have no " no". Lisa used to try to make people happy. Say yes to them. And made mention if you need to be going to bed… To take care of you… Then do that… If you don't take care of you.. People will treat you that way… Call anytime. People see how you treat you. So true!! (And that's wonderful that Lisa clarified that it's not in a self centered egotistical way but to LOVE you well and right. I'm kinda paraphrasing in my own words here.

  26. I'm so greatful that God has created you & you choose to help us❣ Thank u❣ You are one of several inspirational & motivational people that I listen too. I truly love your spirit & you are a beautiful human being❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  27. Since finding your videos, the one thing which really spoke to me was how you found a way to build a future while you were still in the pain. I am trying to do that now, before I would be scared of change, of walking towards the path I know was meant for me. But now, I push myself beyond my limits and am breaking the cycle of those before me to work towards the future I want. I have realised many times this year, that all the skills I have learned and the accomplishments I made cannot be taken from me.

    Thank you Lisa, for proving that you can live your truth, without another's permission, without letting fear hold you back. Thank you for existing, and I shall exist, authentically, unapologetically too.

  28. I’m so glad I discovered you! Whenever I’m going through something, I tune into you. You help me overcome so much in my life. I thank you 🙏🏾

  29. How do you love yourself & have faith!! Not need others validation? And get past the love of your life leaving you because of insecurities partly created by him & i still blame myself one year later, ok i will try the forgiveness for myself everyday continuously!!! I know its a long tough journey & has been prior to my 51 years .Thankyou Lisa ❤

  30. Wow thank you for this truth of “giving my yes more value by being more comfortable with my NO!” People pleaser – here!🙋🏽‍♀️ I have taught people to expect me to be there and give all my time away because I have all my Yes’s away. I am going to actively apply checking my opportunities with my goals and if it doesn’t serve me for this moment it is a NO! So I’ll be evicting pleasing everybody and the guilt that usually tags along with not pleasing everybody! THANK YOU!!!! The truth you are serving is divine and so necessary! God bless you!

  31. The GREATEST # BOL I've had out of many…Lisa, you stated you were about to "sentence yourself to a very dim, dark future" bc of the guilt you felt about putting your son in danger. I am a bright, brilliant, creative, powerful, compassionate woman – who is LIVING that self-imposed sentence. 10 years ago I was in law school. For the past 6 yrs, Ive lived my life in isolation, leaving my apartment one day a week, not interacting w anyone – not coming thru on my Divine Assignment – its a cycle of guilt causing more guilt. I'm miserable, but havent changed it. I know I've wandered far from my essence. I'm now 52 yrs old and I have days where I'm beginning to fear I just might die with my "music still inside me." I'm just starting your course, "28 Days to Results," and I will do the Mirror Work exercises. I've got a great contribution to give, that I know. IDK what's got me "stuck," it just may be living out a sentence I imposed on myself for my own…stuff. Any other guidance?

  32. Thank you for everything you do Lisa and Thank you for allowing God to use you to be such a blessing to this world. Your mails to me are always timely and every time I listen to you, I feel you. Thank you once again Sister. I love you.

  33. I have always accept crop so now after listening to this I will definitely say no and accept better treatment from other's

  34. I don't have anyone I know who has made it or wants to make it. I work for a fortune 500 company and there are people who do well, but they have no real outside goals besides selling more. My goals are huge but I have no idea how to even start.

  35. Why do l always stand out whenever l am in a group. When l join a group l get to be the most dressed fashion conscious, even when not dresd up to the extend my manager look at me in a suspicious way sometimes to intimidate me because we dont deal with money .

    l have left different groups because of this. I then join this high league of jobs l found myself in same place. I get to stand out to the extend some even look at me …. making me feel guilty. Why do l always feel l am with a wrong group . I am no arogant by nature, never been told l am. But why do l continue to feel l am different?

  36. I had a dream about you a few nights ago. I've never been to one of your events, but it was something dealing with Child Hunger or Battered Women. It was some type of fundraiser that you were speaking at. I'm not sure what relevance this has. Any fundraisers coming up for you? May 7, 2019

  37. Thank you lisa for your blessing words I saw you on a show and you captivated me and then I was on my phone and I happened to see you speaking and you made me cry and now I keep searching you just to hear your words if you only knew my story first I'm too codependent and I get stuck and what used to be instead of what it is have to stop learning to live my life for Evelyn and not anybody else I suffer from anxiety really Bad I have a lot of chronic aches and pains but I always carry my smile very well but behind that smile is a lot of Tears thank you for being you reach the Stars God bless you

  38. This video has been so good, I learned so much from it. THANK YOU ! both of you Lisa and her friend.

  39. Oh thank you so much, you showing you, thank you so much. Your messages are received by my mind, yes I want to love myself madly, gonna go do that shortly… and your message is so received in my heart and body by you being you. Bless you!!!
    And oh god… I need to make a plan…

  40. I can completely relate to being that yes person, because I too feel so guilty to ever saying no (I preach the advice to everyone else that its okay to say no but didn't do it myself) because I too felt if I said no that I was going to upset or hurt someones feelings then if they did I would have to say yes out of sheer guilt which made me totally unhappy about doing whatever it was that I said yes to. It's hard to let people have their reactions to once I have said no without feeling guilty. Why do I give people that kind of permission or that kind of authority to have that power over me whether its family, friends or work related?! and how can I manage it or stop it through your methods and techniques???????

  41. Hey Nichols you are so genuine in public speaking that I always ask myself how did you find your calling.

  42. “If you don’t give yourself rest, then the world thinks that you don’t need rest. Your rest has less value if you give it away. Be more comfortable with your nos”

  43. Lisa you’re so genuine, inspirational, vulnerable, open minded, supportive, helpful, and kind! Thank you Lisa 😊❤️

  44. Dearest Lisa,
    Thank you so much for teaching me how to teach people to treat me right. I just finally did exactly what you said and it made me feel so great in relief. I have also been an always yes girl without considering my true feelings and that made me miserable for a big while and I can't believe it is today that the message just came to me. Freedom is so pretty. Thank you Thank you Thank you Lisa.

  45. Lisa your strategy is great and I fully understand it. I have just calculated that my family minimum I need to live on is 1000 eur per month. But being able to save only 100 eur per month it would take me 10 years to be able to have 2 years to build my dream. Any suggestions now? Thanks a lot you are touching my heart

  46. Thank you for that message Lisa yes treating people the way you would like to be treated and also learning how to forgive yourself so important these are things I am working on and I love your message Natalie Anderson

  47. Hello awesome woman. I first saw your" Let your light shine", well a clip from it. I was hooked , i work and I am surrounded by dream snatches and from that moment on i vowed to turn my light up bright and carry an extra pair of shades from that day to this. I sent the clip to all my girlfriends and now all of us have a daily dose of Lisa that gets us all through the tough times. We talk about you as though you are one of the gang.
    I am truly grateful that you are out there in the world inspiring others, so that we too might get it together. I love your light and your energy, we can feel it all the way over here in sunny England. Love and respect

  48. Hi Liza, 1st of all, I just wanted you to know that I am thankful for sharing your knowledge in this platform. People living on the other side of the world like me get the chance to learn from you. I first saw you in the movie "The Secret" among all the speakers you are one I got captivated into that's why I searched for you 5 years ago and from then on I started to follow you. As a result, I was able to copy your styles and confidence while on the stage. Thank you and I love you! <3

  49. Hi Lisa, I honestly never write comments but I truly feel compelled to comment on this amazing video. Just letting you know that your message really resonated with me and hit home. I am subscribed and looking forward to more wonderful pieces of wisdom from an amazing and truly inspirational lady!! Keep up the good work!! 👍

  50. Hi Lisa…I'm listening to this a year after it aired…I literally can relate to all the comments…I am at a point in my life where I am discovering more of who I am, what I am good at, part of my role on this earth and so much more. I will say this though the process is hard, one has a lot of moments that are confusing where like someone said your instincts and your chatter are at war…so I especially thank you for all your insights on that part in particular…you are so real and so relatable to us all. I appreciate the last part of you appreciating God for using you despite your past because that touches me…often I find myself in conversations where I talk to ladies who are struggling with identity as I did for years…i find myself seeing more than they do and feeling burdened to tell them that there is so much more in them than they thing…but then my mind would be reminding me of my own current struggles you know….I do know that all will be well and for allowing God to use you to send that message home to us is truly appreciated…may God continue to bless you and use you more

  51. This was so mindblowing and needed yo hear in all aspect of my lifes journey right now. Thank you both I hope there are more episodes like these

  52. Never met a Lisa I didn't like! But this Lisa has changed my mind about everything. She is real and I love the spot where she said to talk to your self in the mirror it has been powerful to me.

  53. "If you want your 'yes' to have any value, you have to be comfortable with your 'no'."

    That hit me.

    Harder than anything I've ever heard in my life. I was sitting at work trying so hard not to cry. They penetrated me at my core. Because I have been living my life having everybody around me making my decisions for me and more than half of those decisions I regret. Because I said yes when I needed to say no. And I've said yes to way too much that has been pulling me down and pushing back away from leaping over that edge. I was inspired by a recent friend who told me about your work and I thought to myself, "I just gotta see what she's about!!"

    I am telling you right now… I did not expect you to be this impactful on my life. Watching your videos makes me feel like I need to meet you face to face and soak up all your wisdom! It feels like I'm this small little human who needs help. And a lot of times I don't even want to admit it. But for a split second, I was looking through the lense of the real me and how I see my future. For a split second, all possibilites of being the me I want to become opened up in view. But I'm scared. I'm so scared of making mistakes. I'm so scared of becoming successful. I live in fear and its so hard to leap. Sometimes it feels like theres not enough passion to leap. And sometimes fear is too much that it makes it even harder. However, there is something inside me that keeps pulling me to learn. It keeps urging me to seek out my passion and to fight for what I love. And you have helped made all of this so much easier for me. The more I listen to you, the better it gets. I don't know how you do it! But it's incredible, Lisa.

    Thank you!

  54. I can’t express how happy this makes me . I needed this. Thank you for voicing what my mind and heart knew deep down.

  55. I am learning to give value to my yes, And learning to forgive myself. Thank you Lisa. I appreciate you.

  56. I was skimming though you tube one and just fell upon one of your talks I started listening to you talk to rooms full of people and you touch me, and inspired me, to think better of myself. You challenged me to love myself for who I am. Thank you for being so real with us, showing us your true self and spreading your light and love.💕

  57. Thank you again, for reminding me that falling down is not the end, but simply the place where you reassess, make a new plan and hit restart. Thank you Ms. Nichols.

  58. Lisa, in listening, to your talks over the past few days, I realized my fear of being seen is the only thing between me and vibrant health. It’s run my life but I keep showing up again and again and I will finish my story. I was a timid girl who had no voice, I’m a wife, Mama, two time author who’s passionate about emotional wellness. I haven’t arrived but I’m on my way. Thank you, thank you for making young Lisa proud, for showing up for her and all of us, your brothers and sisters. Thank you for giving me breath. 💞

  59. Thank you Lisa, I have a 6 month old son and I decided I will be inconvenient for my conviction. I am worth the commitment, this was for me!

  60. Hi Lisa!👋 I watched this video and it made me cried with you, because I felt how genuine, humble, caring and loving you are, it comes out of you naturally. I found hope listening to you and have experience some things you have and this help me to know that my life can be successful. I know I can do it if you can, just because you are willing to share your testimony, it taught me and others it is possible. We overcome by the blood of the LAMB and our testimony!

  61. First thing that comes to mind…
    You are the wind beneath my wings!
    That was truly from spirit! Thank you Lisa for being vulnerable enough to share all of you so that all of feel like there is hope!
    You are true beauty insid3 and out!!!!'

  62. I don't usually comment but I felt compelled to do it after your request. What spoke to me about this video was that of in order for our yes to have any value, us having to be comfortable with our no. I have been dealing with the consequences of this not having been the case for me 0 and havung given resentful, overburdened yeses- and the cost is too high. I am setting it as an intention and commitment to, going forward, only saying YES if it is a grateful, loving one. Thank you !

  63. *****BETONY ; you NEED MIRROR WORK BADLY‼️‼️‼️💯 @17:31!!!!! I keep clapping 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 allllllllll throughout your video‼️‼️ and crying 😢😢😢😢 and taking notes 📝 & & & & & blowing my nose💯‼️‼️‼️ I’ve been following you for years & you still seem to “pop up” whenever I TRULY TRULY TRULY NEEDED YOU SOOOOO BADLY💯‼️‼️‼️ You have noooooooo IDEA HOW MUCH you’ve helped this single mother with fibromyalgia and a brain 🧠 tumor not give up In remain in a dark dark place repeatedly I’ve been able to keep pulling myself back up because of you 💯🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋❤️🧡💛💚💙💖💘💕💗💓💞💝💟

  64. Thank you Lisa for being so opened and honest about your journey. You've just inspired me to do the work needed in order to love myself beyond my wildest dreams and to forgive myself for everything I did or didn't do. Much love from Croatia.

  65. Where do we send our questions Lisa? I love you by the way. First time I saw you was in "The Law of Attraction " film. I found your channel last night. I had gone to a dark place and stayed up until 1am watching one of your interviews. I was diagnosed with ADD and my life made sense. I always listen to motivational speakers but nothing goes to my subconscious. I get excited for about a week then I forget all about it. My emotions keep being the same making me a hard person to be around. You are the only speaker who tells me what steps to take. That's what I need!! To have someone calling me out and I will set reminders to listen to you every day to not forget. I have come out of my dark hole today thanks to you and some sleep. Thank you Lisa 😍😍😍

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